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Learning target 1.1

Self-Awareness & Regulation

Notice internal states, apply contextually appropriate regulation strategies, and adjust them based on reflective learning across situations.

T3Practised disposition
Orientations students grow into — practised over time, observed across contexts. Assessed by what they consistently do, not what they say.
BandsAF

Criteria — what growth looks like

Every learning target has a set of criteria specifying what growth looks like at each band. For this practised-disposition LT, each criterion lists what would be observed (and what would be confused with it) rather than rubric levels.

6 criteria across 6 bands.

Band AWater + Air Dragons

K–2ages 5–7
1 criterion
  • A.1The student pauses to notice body signals and emotional activation, names what they are feeling, and uses a practised calming strategy to return to learning, without needing step-by-step adult direction.

    Observation indicators

    • The student pauses to name a feeling ("I'm frustrated", "I'm tired") before reacting when emotional activation rises, on most occasions visible to the teacher.
    • The student selects a practised calming strategy (deep breath, water, movement break, quiet corner) without needing step-by-step adult direction.
    • The student returns to the learning activity after using a strategy, rather than requiring an adult to redirect them each time.
    • The student names body signals (tight tummy, hot face, fast heart) as they arise, not only after the moment has passed.

    Confusable behaviours

    • Compliance with adult-directed calming (following an instruction to "take a breath") mistaken for self-regulation. Distinction: the disposition is visible when the adult has not prompted and the student initiates the pause themselves.
    • Emotional suppression (freezing and going quiet) mistaken for calming. Distinction: suppression is visible as withdrawal of affect; regulation is visible as return to engagement after a brief self-directed pause.

    Absence indicators

    • In classroom moments of frustration, the student's first response is consistently externalised (shouting, tears, hitting the desk) with no observable pause.
    • The student relies on the same adult for every regulation episode, with no transfer to self-directed use of practised strategies.

    Conversation prompts

    • Tell me about a time this week when you felt a big feeling. What did your body do?
    • When you use your calming corner or your breathing, what do you notice changes?
    • Tell me about a time a feeling surprised you — what was it, and what was going on?
    T3 · Band ALink to this criterioncrit_1_1_A_1

Band BEarth Dragons

G3–4ages 8–10
1 criterion
  • B.1The student notices recurring personal triggers, chooses from a practised repertoire of regulation strategies before activation escalates, and does so across more than one setting.

    Observation indicators

    • The student names a recurring personal trigger (end-of-morning hunger, group work with a specific peer, maths-problem frustration) in their own words, not only after the fact.
    • The student chooses from a practised repertoire of strategies (not only the single strategy they learned first) based on what the trigger is.
    • The student applies a regulation strategy before activation escalates in at least two different settings (classroom work, playground, group work).
    • The student comments on strategies that did or didn't work for them without adult prompting.

    Confusable behaviours

    • Routine compliance (using the same strategy every time because it is the one the class was taught) mistaken for trigger-responsive regulation. Distinction: look for the student picking a strategy that fits the situation, not applying a default.
    • Avoidance (deliberately steering around a known trigger) mistaken for regulation. Distinction: avoidance reduces exposure; regulation shows up when the student stays in the situation and manages their state.

    Absence indicators

    • The student can name strategies abstractly but only applies them with adult reminder, even when a known trigger is active.
    • The student's triggers recur predictably and the response pattern remains unchanged across weeks (same escalation, same adult intervention, no emerging self-action).

    Conversation prompts

    • What's something that sets you off at school — and how do you usually know it's starting?
    • Tell me about a time you caught yourself early this month. What did you do?
    • Which of your calming strategies feels most like it actually works — and which one doesn't?
    T3 · Band BLink to this criterioncrit_1_1_B_1

Band CFire Dragons

G5–6ages 10–12
1 criterion
  • C.1The student applies a regulation strategy in a genuinely challenging situation and afterwards explains what worked and what didn't, adjusting their choice of strategy based on what they have learned.

    Observation indicators

    • The student applies a regulation strategy in a genuinely challenging moment (not a rehearsed low-stakes practice), on multiple occasions across a term.
    • Afterwards — spontaneously or on a brief prompt — the student explains what worked and what didn't, rather than only reporting "I used my strategy".
    • The student adjusts choice of strategy based on what they have learned from earlier attempts, not by sticking to one default.
    • The student distinguishes strategies that genuinely helped from those that felt like they should have helped but didn't.

    Confusable behaviours

    • Post-hoc narration of compliance ("I did the breathing") mistaken for strategic reflection. Distinction: the disposition shows when the student can point to something that didn't work and explain why, not only successes.
    • Rehearsal fluency (being able to describe strategies in a reflection lesson) mistaken for in-the-moment application. Distinction: the evidence is visible in the middle of a hard situation, not in planned reflection.

    Absence indicators

    • The student performs regulation language convincingly in low-stakes settings but reverts to pre-strategy patterns the moment genuine difficulty lands.
    • The student's post-hoc reflections stay at the level of "it worked" / "it didn't work" with no specificity about what or why.

    Conversation prompts

    • When do you find it easiest to use a regulation strategy, and when does it feel hardest?
    • Tell me about a time a strategy you expected to work didn't — what happened?
    • How has the set of strategies you rely on changed across this year?
    T3 · Band CLink to this criterioncrit_1_1_C_1

Band DMetal + Light Dragons

G7–8ages 12–13
1 criterion
  • D.1The student applies different regulation strategies across different settings, explains without prompt why one fits one setting and not another, and names a specific change they are going to try next.

    Observation indicators

    • The student applies different regulation strategies across different settings (academic task pressure, peer friction, home-context reports), not a single default everywhere.
    • The student explains — without adult prompt — why one strategy fits one setting and not another (what the context allows, what the activation pattern is).
    • The student names a specific, concrete change to their regulation practice they are going to try next, grounded in what they have learned.
    • The student adjusts strategies when a previously reliable one stops working in a new context.

    Confusable behaviours

    • Context-matching as performance (using the "right" strategy because that's what the adult expects in this room) mistaken for authentic context-sensitivity. Distinction: the disposition shows in the student's own reasoning about fit, not in conformity to classroom norms.
    • Sophisticated talk about regulation in reflection without corresponding behaviour change across contexts mistaken for integration. Distinction: the student's practice in home-context and peer-context settings should register the growth, not only in supervised school settings.

    Absence indicators

    • The student uses one consistent strategy in all contexts, with no adjustment when context or available resources change.
    • The student can discuss context-sensitivity fluently but reports from parents and other settings show the same reactivity pattern the student had a year ago.

    Conversation prompts

    • Where does your regulation feel most reliable and where does it still feel effortful?
    • How has your approach shifted between school, home, and friendships this year?
    • What's the next change you're thinking about making — and what's making you think it's time?
    T3 · Band DLink to this criterioncrit_1_1_D_1

Band EStone Dragons

G9–10ages 14–16
1 criterion
  • E.1The student sustains regulation practices through extended pressure periods without adult scaffolding and comments unprompted on how their own state is affecting the group or a specific peer.

    Observation indicators

    • The student sustains regulation practices through extended pressure periods (assessment windows, significant personal difficulty, intense group project) without adult scaffolding.
    • The student comments unprompted on how their own state is affecting the group or a specific peer, not only on their own feelings.
    • The student's regulation practice holds consistently across observed and observer-free contexts (home, peer group, online) over a term.
    • The student takes small proactive steps (sleep protection, withdrawal from pressurising interaction, rest scheduling) in anticipation of known stressors, not only in response.

    Confusable behaviours

    • Performed stoicism ("I'm fine") under visible strain mistaken for sustained regulation. Distinction: the disposition is visible in continuing practice — not in the absence of complaint.
    • Regulating-for-the-group (suppressing own state to keep the group calm) mistaken for group-aware regulation. Distinction: the disposition includes acknowledgement of own state, not its concealment for others' benefit.

    Absence indicators

    • Regulation practices visibly fray in pressure weeks across multiple markers (sleep, mood, output), with no adjustment or help-seeking.
    • The student acts as though their state is private and has no effect on the group, even when peer reports show the contrary.

    Conversation prompts

    • How has your regulation held up through this year's hardest patches — where did it hold, where did it fray?
    • When have you noticed your own state shaping the group's — and what did you do?
    • How has what 'looking after yourself' means changed for you between last year and now?
    T3 · Band ELink to this criterioncrit_1_1_E_1

Band FSky Dragons

G11–12ages 16–18
1 criterion
  • F.1The student articulates a personal regulation system grounded in specific practice and supports a peer or younger student in developing their own, without adult direction.

    Observation indicators

    • The student articulates — in Reflection 360 or spontaneous reflection — their personal regulation system: non-negotiables, early-warning signals, known disruptors, adaptations built over years.
    • The student supports a peer or younger student in developing their own regulation, without adult direction, using questions more than prescription.
    • The student's regulation language is authored (their own), not imported from the programme vocabulary, and is recognisably coherent across contexts.
    • The student maintains regulation practices when no adult is tracking, in consequential life contexts (applications, work, significant relationships).

    Confusable behaviours

    • Articulate vocabulary about regulation ("my nervous system", "my HPA axis") mistaken for authored system. Distinction: an authored system has specific content — the student's own non-negotiables, their own known disruptors — not only rehearsed neuroscience.
    • Directive peer advice ("you should try box breathing") mistaken for supporting others' development. Distinction: support here is non-directive and centred on the peer's own discovery.

    Absence indicators

    • The student can describe regulation neuroscience fluently but cannot specify their own system's particulars.
    • The student's peer-support mode is advice-giving, not inquiry-led, even after practice.

    Conversation prompts

    • Walk me through your regulation system — the bits that are non-negotiable, the bits that are still in progress.
    • How has supporting other people's regulation changed yours?
    • What in your regulation system are you planning to carry into life after school, and what do you expect will need to shift?
    T3 · Band FLink to this criterioncrit_1_1_F_1